Support to help you be the best version of yourself. Because life is totally more satisfying this way.

Unsatisfied with the relationships in your life and wanting skills to help them become more fulfilling, or maybe unsure if you're wanting to maintain certain relationships? Noticing uneasy feelings like worry, anger or hopelessness? Feeling stuck with the advice you're getting from friends, loved ones or your partner(s) and ready to further understand yourself and those around you with a fresh perspective? Let's do this. 

I also work with folks feeling uninspired by their career choices and wanting to determine how to become more fulfilled by their life's work. I help clients determine who they are and how this can fit into a possible and financially successful career option. Portland's entrepreneurial spirit serves to inspire those living here to know that many things are possible if you can dream it up. I have years of experience working for a Fortune 100 Best Companies to Work For in addition to being a business owner and having a deep curiosity and understanding of both traditional/professional as well as entrepreneurial career fields. I can help you negotiate your worth and guide you to create the connections that contribute to greater meaning in your life. Let's get started.

Common Issues Addressed:

Navigating the dating world: when to commit?

Ambivalence in relationships: do I want to stay committed and how can I be more fulfilled?

Breakup/divorce counseling: processing emotional injuries and navigating logistics

Negotiating areas of conflict (stress, finances, housework, social preferences, sex, moving, porn, relationships with family)

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning identities

Family, cultural or religious identities

Planning life dreams

Career planning

Co-working relationships

Business partnerships

Creative expression in work

Deciding on a career

Life transitions (school, career, moving, whether to have children, parenting, retirement)

Relationship/partnership dissatisfaction

Communication and conflict skills

Recovering from emotional or physical betrayal

Difficulty trusting

Identifying and advocating for your needs

Difficult family relationships

Creating boundaries with others

Navigating the dating world

Breakup/ transitioning out of a partnership

Open relating, polyamory and relationship anarchy

Healing from past romantic or family relationships

Improving sexual and physical intimacy

Why am I or my partner avoidant?

Why am I reactive/fearful/ashamed/frozen?

Depression: that pesky dark cloud

Worry and anxiety

 

What to expect

Most individuals I see are seeking assistance about a specific relationship issue, such as looking to improve their relationship, recovering from a breakup, transitioning into relationships, dating with intention, deciding on whether to commit to your current partner, entering a polyamorous relationship and other complicated relationship situations. Other individuals with whom I highly enjoy working are those seeking change in their lives and looking to transition in career or to gain skills to make these moves happen. I will create space for your goals and honor these throughout our work together. I will help you tap into your thoughts, feelings and behaviors surrounding certain problem areas and assist you with understanding your own needs and desires before taking action. I will never tell you what your decisions should be, but will reflect and validate what I hear you leaning toward and offer unique perspectives. As your therapist I will help you to create change in your life based on what is in your control, and make decisions that feel ultimately the most beneficial and empowering to you. I will help you advocate for yourself to others, and I will sometimes challenge your assumptions or actions as they relate to your goals. I may invite you to empathize or consider another person's perspective with whom you are relating. My goal is to help you achieve clarity, act with intention and to provide meaningful and grounded confidence in your situation. 

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountain and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting—
over and over announcing your place in the family of things.
— Wild Geese by Mary Oliver